I can speak from the experience and viewpoint of life events over the last few years alone which were, one by one, similarly joyous as they were awful: the birth of a youngster, several life-saving surgeries, a death in the family, and the diagnosis of a chronic disease. These events had such a result on my general well being that with every additional hurdle, I ended up being more and more based on the help of others to obtain through. And every time, thankfully, I was the recipient of what felt like a genuine profusion of support and consideration.
Some people have actually likened the experience of depression to that of ‘being caught in perpetual darkness’; others describe it as a distressing time when their minds might just invoke the most desolate thoughts. Regularly, intense, constant sensations of worthlessness and vulnerability overwhelm the individual. He/she also experiences a sense of hopelessness that these feelings will never ever change. On the other hand, there are others, who instead of feeling sad, experience lethargy and slowing down of their ideas. Not uncommonly, anxiety is likewise an accompanying symptom. There is likewise increasing proof that unattended depression takes a significant toll on physical health.
It appears that when a major life event unfolds for somebody, everyone around that individual is well trained for the rescue effort. The news generally spreads out like wildfire, and a team of people mobilizes itself to make phone calls, cook meals, send flowers and cards. Friends, and even some unfamiliar people, connect to share their knowledge, provide their help and quite literally develop a safety net around you to keep you afloat. It is a terrific testament to the human spirit.
The Major Life Event Discussion Continues…
However, something curious happens after a couple of months have passed and exactly what was as soon as acknowledged as a major life event, starts to wander off into the past. While it is a known reality that by assisting others, both the giver and the receiver will benefit, in some way the dynamic begin to suffer with time. On the one hand, you have the individual, who in the procedure of aiming to restore a life balance continues to find himself depleted and unequipped to cope. On the other hand, you have the support network, which on a whole, begins to dissolve because on the surface, the work appears completed. In their eyes the reality is that, pardon the cliche, life goes on.
An interesting spin on this
Please checked out on if you are still puzzled about my problem. I believe you will agree that particular life events, and absolutely if in mix with others, take a lot longer to resolve than a few months. They require continuous attention and work before they can genuinely be put behind us. So why is it that we are prone to allow the individual with an avalanche of love and practical help at the onset, just to withdraw when the struggle remains to stay a struggle? Timing, and maybe a little experience, is obviously of the essence here.